Variations of this question might be:

"How can I get rid of my shadow?"

"How can I stay 'positive' all the time?"

At their core, these questions are asking the same thing, so let's address them together.

With the rise of social media, a fantasy has emerged: the idea that life can (and should) be only "positive" and never "negative." But this belief violates one of the Universe's fundamental principles—the Law of Duality. For something to exist, its opposite must also exist. There’s no day without night, no left without right, no in without out.

When we try to be only positive and reject our negative side, we're essentially trying to erase half of ourselves—and that’s impossible. The Universe will always create experiences to remind us of this truth.

When someone says they feel positive, what they often mean is that they're aware of the upsides and unaware of the downsides. When someone says they feel negative, they’re aware of the downsides and unaware of the upsides.

The pursuit of a one-sided life—where we’re always happy, always confident, always light—is futile. As the Buddha famously said: "The desire for that which is unattainable (one side) and the desire to avoid that which is unavoidable (the other side) is the cause of human suffering."

So, if we can’t get rid of our shadow side and we can’t think positive all the time… what can we do?

The Answer is Surprisingly Simple:

Instead of rejecting your shadow, you can learn to love it, because it’s a part of you.

Here's what works for me:

1. When I notice a negative thought, I observe it without attaching to it.

2. If I hear, "I’m not good enough", I remind myself that this feeling has nothing to do with the present moment and everything to do with an unhealed story from my past.

3. I ask myself: "When else have I felt this way?"

4. Once I pinpoint the moment, I allow myself to fully feel the emotions attached to it —without judgment, without rushing.

5. I keep asking myself if there are any lingering thoughts or feelings until they naturally dissolve.

Why is this important? Because until the emotion attached to the story is dissolved, that story will keep running you.

The amygdala—the primal part of your brain responsible for fight, flight, or freeze—will continue to create circumstances that validate the belief ("I’m not good enough") until you learn the lesson and release it.

It's like dating the same person with a different face.

Only when we dissolve the root cause of our shadow stories can we reach a place of neutrality and clarity—a space from which we can create something new.

Ready to Go Deeper?

This is the foundation of the transformational coaching we offer. If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a free discovery call. Together, we’ll explore where you are, uncover potential roadblocks, and, if it feels aligned, co-create a plan to move you closer to your goals.

If you haven’t scheduled your free discovery call yet, now’s the perfect time. Let us show you how to embrace your shadow side and work with your thoughts, rather than judging yourself for having them.

You are whole. You are worthy. And every part of you deserves love and acceptance.

When we say we “miss” someone or something, we’re really saying we perceive we’ve lost something valuable—whether it’s a job, money, a relationship, a friendship, a loved one, or even a pet. It could also be a child leaving for college or loved ones drifting away. Naturally, feelings of grief and loss follow.Grief arises when we believe we’ve lost specific traits, actions, or inactions we were deeply attached to.

Let’s say your mom has passed away.

The first step in healing is to list the specific traits, actions, or inactions you miss most about her.

For example: “I miss the way she cared for me.”

The second step is to ask yourself: "Since the day she passed, who or what has shown up in my life to care for me the way that she did?"

Look deeply. The answers might come from unexpected places — friends, family members, mentors, pets, or even yourself. These forms of care could be direct or indirect, physical or emotional, real or virtual. Write down every name or source that comes to mind until you can’t think of any more.

Through this process, you’ll begin to realize: you didn’t lose that trait—it simply changed form.

The grief persisted because you were unaware of this new form, and now you can start to release it.

This is just one part of a deeper process for dissolving grief and loss, which involves four powerful questions. By the end of the full method, many people find themselves moved to tears—not from pain, but from gratitude. They’re able to honor their loved one’s memory without being weighed down by emotional suffering.

If grief remains unresolved, it often leads to feelings of guilt and shame, which are among the lowest emotional vibrations. These feelings can keep you stuck and block abundance from flowing into your life.

Our coaching services include this transformative grief and loss process. If this resonates with you, we invite you to book a free discovery call. Together, we’ll explore where you are now, identify obstacles, and—if it feels aligned—create a plan to help you move forward with love, clarity, and peace.

Don’t wait to take this step. Honor your loved one’s memory by freeing yourself from unnecessary pain.

Before we can answer that question, let’s start at the very beginning—before you were born.

When we leave this life, we’re greeted by an Ascended Master who asks if we’ve learned the lessons we intended to in this lifetime. The lessons we didn’t learn are carried over to the next.

From there, we begin planning our next life.

To the list of unfinished lessons, we add new ones we’re ready to take on. The Ascended Master then asks, “Who wants to help them with this lesson?” Other souls step forward, agreements are made, and contracts are formed. This process continues until every lesson has a teacher, guide, or companion assigned to it.

When the planning phase is complete, everything is encoded into your astrological birth chart. But right before you’re born, you’re asked to forget it all. As you move through life, your birth chart quietly guides you. When you’re ready to rediscover who you are and what you came here to do, you’ll naturally feel drawn to astrology—whether through self-study or having your chart interpreted by someone else.

How We Approach Astrology

We offer astrology chart interpretations with a unique focus: helping you remember who you are and what you came here to do.

By default, we interpret your chart through the lens of purpose and upon request, we can also focus on love & relationships or career & finances.

While we can point you in the direction of your purpose or career path, we can’t predict exactly how it will unfold—that part is guided by your intuition.

Removing Blocks to Purpose

Often, limiting beliefs and emotional stories keep us from feeling that pull toward our purpose. Purpose isn’t something you chase—it’s something you feel drawn to.

Through my personal journey, I only started feeling that pull after doing deep inner work and releasing what no longer served me. With every layer I let go of, more clarity emerged, ultimately leading to the creation of this community, these programs, and these services.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a free discovery call. Together, we’ll explore where you are now, identify roadblocks, and—if it feels aligned—craft a plan to guide you closer to your purpose.

Should we decide on an astrology reading, please note:

You’ll need to provide your date of birth, time of birth, and place of birth for an accurate and complete interpretation.

Without this information, I can only offer part of your story.

Don’t wait to uncover who you truly are and what you came here to do. The pull is already within you—it’s time to follow it.